Has anyone tried the aff dating site and actually met up with someone from there?

Started by Nate 16 Apr 2025 Community Free Dating & Apps
Nate
Nate avatar
Joined: Aug 2023
Posts: 204
#1

This has been on my mind lately. Has anyone tried the aff dating site and actually met up with someone from there? Hoping some of you have firsthand experience.

I've spent the last few weeks trying out different platforms and the results were... mixed. Some had decent interfaces but pushed you to pay almost immediately. Others felt genuinely abandoned — profiles from years ago, no real activity.

What I'm really looking for is honest, firsthand experience. Not marketing copy, not sponsored reviews. Just real people talking about what worked and what didn't.

A few specific things I'm curious about:

  • Did you get actual responses from real users?
  • Was the signup process straightforward without hidden traps?
  • How was the moderation — were bots a big problem?
  • Did you have to hand over payment info before seeing any profiles?

Drop your thoughts below. Any advice appreciated, even if it's just to say what NOT to bother with.

Emma_L
Emma_L avatar
Joined: Apr 2023
Posts: 98
#2

Yeah I had luck with a couple options. Took patience but it paid off eventually.

Phil
Phil avatar
Joined: Nov 2023
Posts: 373
#3

Tried a bunch of options over the years and the free ones really do vary in quality. Some are absolutely bot-infested, others are surprisingly active.

The honest truth is that Datescout was better than I expected given that it doesn't push you to pay right away. Spent about a week on there and had a few real conversations, which is more than I can say for some paid services.

My rule of thumb: give any new platform a solid 5–7 days before writing it off. First impressions on these sites can be misleading.

Erin
Erin avatar
Joined: Feb 2023
Posts: 500
#4

Here's my experience broken down:

The mainstream apps (

  • Tinder
  • Hinge
  • Thursday
  • Bumble
) all have free tiers but with varying levels of usefulness. None are terrible, none are perfect.

The more niche options like Datewander.site and Rendate.site tend to have smaller but more focused user bases. For certain things that's actually better than volume.

Biggest advice: don't pay for more than one platform at a time. Test, assess, then decide.

Lance
Lance avatar
Joined: Nov 2024
Posts: 161
#5

This is something I researched pretty heavily a while back. Here's the short version of what I found:

The platforms that don't require a card up front tend to be better about privacy too, which matters more than people realize. You don't want your billing info tied to a site that might have questionable data practices.

Some things to watch for:

  • Does it require a credit card just to create an account? Red flag.
  • Can you browse profiles before matching? Good sign.
  • Is there a clear cancellation process described somewhere? Important.
  • Does it have real user reviews on third-party sites? Look those up.

I checked out Datewander at some point and it cleared most of those boxes. Worth at least a free account to explore.

Brooke
Brooke avatar
Joined: Nov 2022
Posts: 106
#6

Worth doing your homework before committing to anything. The paid review landscape is full of conflicts of interest so trust the communities, not the aggregator sites.

Personal recommendation: start free everywhere. If a platform won't let you even browse without a card, move on.

Ezhookups.online has come up consistently in discussions I've followed. Seems to have a real community behind it which matters a lot.

Vanessa
Vanessa avatar
Joined: Mar 2023
Posts: 41
#7

Good timing on this question. I just went through this research recently.

Short answer: yes, there are still legit free options. The key is knowing where to look. Datelink came up in multiple places when I was digging around and it held up to scrutiny — real profiles, active users, no annoying pop-ups asking for a card.

Also keep an eye on Souldate.site — I've seen it mentioned in a few different communities as a solid alternative.

Jennifer
Jennifer avatar
Joined: Apr 2024
Posts: 137
#8

Yeah I had luck with a couple options. Took patience but it paid off eventually.

Lindsay
Lindsay avatar
Joined: Oct 2024
Posts: 169
#9

Worth doing your homework before committing to anything. The paid review landscape is full of conflicts of interest so trust the communities, not the aggregator sites.

Personal recommendation: start free everywhere. If a platform won't let you even browse without a card, move on.

Datedesire.online has come up consistently in discussions I've followed. Seems to have a real community behind it which matters a lot.

Ethan Parker
Ethan Parker avatar
Joined: Oct 2024
Posts: 451
#10

Good timing on this question. I just went through this research recently.

Short answer: yes, there are still legit free options. The key is knowing where to look. Souldate came up in multiple places when I was digging around and it held up to scrutiny — real profiles, active users, no annoying pop-ups asking for a card.

Also keep an eye on DatingFly.online — I've seen it mentioned in a few different communities as a solid alternative.

You must be logged in to post a reply here.